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How To Build A Relationship That Lasts - Emotional Intelligence

Written by Brittany George | Dec 6, 2020 11:38:48 PM

Do you understand what emotions are? Are you able to keep your emotions in control? Can you acknowledge others’ emotions and respond to them constructively?

Well, if you can do all these things positively, then this indicates that you have developed Emotional Intelligence (EI).

The term ‘Emotional Intelligence’, first coined by psychologists Mayer and Salovey (1990), relate to the point where insight and emotion come together; it promotes our capacity for empathy, patience, reasoning, adapting, communicating, stress management, and resolving conflicts.

It helps us develop a better understanding of our surroundings and live a fulfilled and content life.

Emotional Intelligence and Relationship Management

To achieve success in life or at work, one can’t solely rely on their intelligent quotient (IQ) since it is incomplete without emotional intelligence.

One starts realising their true potential when they are emotionally intelligent: able to regulate their emotions according to the situation and relation. It helps us to build strong relations in personal and professional lives and achieve respective goals. Most importantly, it makes one a better decision-maker.

Here are some tips for developing and maintaining good relationships using your emotional intelligence:

1. Effective Use of Non-Verbal Communication

Once you become emotionally intelligent, you take a deep insight into how others feel and the reason behind it. Yes. You become more sensitive towards people both in personal and professional life.

Non-verbal communication refers to your expressions and your dealings, which eventually convey your emotions without even saying a single word.

People who have high emotional intelligence tend to solve problems at the workplace calmly and constructively. Such people better understand and address the needs of people they interact with. They are a blessing for their surroundings. Ones who care for others and create a respectful environment for their peers where everybody is insistent upon helping others succeed.

However, in personal life, emotionally intelligent people resolve matters without creating a stressful atmosphere, thus encouraging long-lasting relationships based on trust and understanding.

2. Working As A Team

How would you feel if you aren’t well for some reason whatsoever and nobody lends a hand? Awful? Right.

People with EI create a friendly and cool atmosphere either at home or workplace where everyone’s feelings and emotions are taken care of.  

At work, this attitude aids in working within teams, disagreeing with others’ point-of-view positively, adapting to changes more efficiently – thus working together to achieve business goals.

Being able to relate to the concerns of people in personal life is a vital skill to achieve personal goals, happiness and forge stronger relationships.

3. Adapting to Surroundings

To be able to manage one’s troublesome and rebellious emotions as a result of changes in your surroundings is a big deal.

People who are self-regulated easily adjust to difficult and new situations without becoming irritated and dispirited. They can control unwanted and unwelcome behaviors, take actions, and fulfill promises as an approach to adapting to unforeseen circumstances.

They see changes as something essential for their personal and professional growth, something that would equip them to become better selves.

4. Using Humor to Relieve Stress

Think about the time you were freaking stressed out and could not do anything the right way?

This happens. When you are overly stressed, you lose the ability to think clearly and make a sensible choice. Stress takes control of your emotional and mental stability thus making it impossible for you to contemplate matters in your personal and professional life.

The ability to manage stress and set aside negative and pessimistic thoughts by employing humor can help you lead a blissful and happy life.

5. Resolving Conflicts Constructively

One can’t fully avoid conflicts in personal and professional relationships. It is a natural and unavoidable part of human relationships since people tend to have differences in opinions and ideas.

People with EI know how to deal with unpleasant and unfavorable situations, thus enabling them to resolve conflicts in a meaningful and healthy manner – strengthening bonds in relationships.

Conflict is not seen as something threatening, damaging, or punishing. It is perceived as something that encourages creativity and sustains personal and professional relationships.

6. Becoming a Strong Leader

One can never lead a team of co-workers or personal relations until or unless they are emotionally intelligent.

As Jack Welch said,

“No doubt emotional intelligence is rarer than book smarts, but my experience says it is actually more important in the making of a leader. You just can’t ignore it.”

A good leader who is EI doesn’t give in to aggressive decisions or confrontations. They are one step ahead of their surrounding people in terms of their thoughtfulness, sensitivity, and respectfulness towards other members of the community. 

They focus on creating an engaging atmosphere at the workplace, a place where everybody feels heard and attended to. This EI leadership quality also has a constructive impact on employee motivation, thus increasing the overall business productivity.

However, helping people resolve conflicts and come together is the best display of leadership quality in the personal relations of EI people.

Conclusion

To work with others in a friendly atmosphere, one has to be emotionally well-aware and be able to put oneself in others’ shoes to understand their feelings. Once your emotional intelligence comes into play, you develop skills that make your personal and professional relationship more fruitful, engaging, and long-lasting.

Author’s Bio

Gloria Kopp is currently working as a Health Specialist at EssaysnAssignments, a number-one name in the field of writing services.

She has been working in the field of health, gaining immense popularity over the course of years.

Gloria has graduated from the University of Wyoming and helps clients in overcoming their health-related issues.